“We are very much what others think of us. —The reception our observations are met with gives us courage to proceed, or damps our efforts.” —Hazlitt
I have been griping to possess the words to describe this phenomenon of subconsciously reacting to another’s opinion of one’s self- with this as a reference point I think I am capable of more elaborately describing it.
‘We are very much what others think of us.’
This is very true. The way that we perceive others reacting to our person, whether we like it or not, has an effect on the way that we act around that person later. Perhaps it is for consideration of an obvious negative reaction on their part, or for the silly craving to be liked by everyone. We have an inconspicuous inclination to mold ourselves into personalities fascinated with being fancied by all and especially by those to whom we award merit and interest in our own value system. When the opinions of dear one’s are made apparent it is felt as an act of duty or service to offend as little as possible, in which case we may unwittingly choose to develop affectations of which are acceptable to those we find ourselves in the company of. This of course, to address it bluntly, is of the utmost superficiality and thus, finds itself void of true character. It’s a shame we’re all guilty of it, since it comes so naturally to the best of us. It’s an artless pretension of the sincerest form of ignorance heralding the requirement of immediate and active dismissal from the individual’s allowance of acceptable, or beneficial reactions. I say ‘active’ for the deliberate purpose of inciting an understanding in you of the undeniable necessity of unceasingly expelling this often imperceptible behavior from your repertoire of decent etiquette. It’s a constant conscious battle against the subconscious disguises in each of us.
It goes like this, when we are around another whom we find sees our behavior as less than appreciated, boring or even repugnant we are intimidated to such a degree which serves to dampen our character or personality in a slow, unsolicited repression of our unique expression, original thought, or tone of life.
In the same sense, when we surround ourselves with those people who find our individuality to be preciously particular to our personality we recognize a new found confidence, magnification and courage to embrace our intrinsic spirit.